Finding Your Place IN The Wall. Surround Yourself With These People

If we are to endure in living and leading well, we need to have three groups of people in our lives: those who build us, those who inspire us and those who need us.

When these three groups of people are around us, we will continually receive support, encouragement and be connected to the needs of others.


The best way to illustrate this is with the analogy of a brick wall. A brick in the middle of a wall has bricks under it, beside it and above it, all connected by mortar. This makes the brick both strong and secure. Strength is gained by the supporting cast of bricks surrounding it.

We, like this one brick IN the wall, need to surround ourselves with people who are supporting us, running with us and drawing strength from us.


1. Bricks Below (Mentors) – These bricks explain those who make up the wall under us. They provide foundation, support and strength.

Mentors, spiritual fathers and mothers, pastors and/or life coaches fit into this category.

These people are life givers and encourages. They believe in and pray for us. They see our calling and call out our anointing. They hold us accountable and provide personal development and direction by their wisdom and life experience. They coach, inspire and correct in a spirit of truth and love.

Bible Character: Jethro and Moses (Exodus 18)

2. Bricks Beside (Peers) – This group consists of people who are running with us in our unique calling, career and/or life goals. They are peers, teammates, friends and comrades who are moving toward a common goal.

As a Pastor, I connect with other Pastors. We learn from and inspire one another. I need people who are running in the same race I am, who serve in the trenches like I do.

Connect with those who are running in the same direction you are. Link shields and draw life from one another.

Biblical Characters: The Apostles (Book of Acts)

3. Bricks Above (Others) – This group consists of people to whom we are serving and adding value to. We are supporting, teaching, developing and pouring into others while we serve them. We build up and disciple.

Life is meaningless until it’s given away. We give away our life by serving people. Saved people serve people.

Find people to serve and pour into. Do it joyfully as unto the Lord.

Bible Characters: Paul and Timothy (1 and 2 Timothy)


Some people believe that the only three people they need in their lives are the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Though this is vital it’s not complete.

The truth is, God’s uses people to form and shape us. They carry His voice and intentions. In many ways God uses people to strengthen, grow and develop us into the image of Jesus.

You need all three groups in your life.

  1. Do you have people who are mentoring, supporting and coaching you?
  2. Do you have peers who are encouraging and inspiring you?
  3. Do you have people who you are building and pouring in to?

If you don’t have all three of them then pray and be intentional about pursuing them. Take someone out to lunch or invite them over your house for dinner.

Your growth and reaching your full potential in God depends on it.

Question: Out of the three groups of people mentioned in the post, what group of people do you think you need more of?

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  1. Julie Feb 3, 2015 at 2:16 am

    So true! The kingdom happens through family. I love the word picture of the wall you gave. Each brick or stone, a part of the church that Is being built upon the Cornerstone Christ.

    I think I need more supporting bricks. I have a few but, living in India, the interaction with them is extremely sparse. Interestingly, though, I think that I would say that some of the strongest supporting bricks in my life are people I don’t know personally (although these kinds would never be all sufficient)–people like Heidi Baker, whose messages I listen to over and over, and Rees Howells and Praying Hyde, who are with the Lord have profoundly impacted my life.

    1. Greg Simas Feb 3, 2015 at 8:02 am

      Hi, Julie. This wall is all about leaning on Jesus and serving one another in all areas. With this model each person is commissioned to build, encourage and give their lives away to others. Can you imagine if many in the body of Christ had these groups around them? I’m getting more revelation about this as I’m writing this comment!

      I would conclude that many who are serving in ministry are lacking the supporting bricks. I have some idea’s on how I can at least help. Also, books are great mentors…though they fall short on the personal connection. I’m glad your reading and listening to others and being strengthened and encouraged by their messaging!

  2. Andrew Feb 3, 2015 at 2:36 pm

    I need more people above me. Mentors

    I feel like this has become like a profession for some than an opportunity.

    How do I know when someone can mentor me?
    Is it better to initiate first or wait for someone to approach me?

    1. Greg Simas Feb 3, 2015 at 3:39 pm

      Hi Andrew. I think the best way to do this is through friendship and service. Mentoring is a time investment. Some people will value the investment of mentoring and will have time to do it. Others simply can’t.

      A few years ago I went out and found a professional coaching organization and did that program for a year. The program provided me with someone who had the time, tools and life experience to coach me. You might want to look into this type of program.

  3. Jo Feb 3, 2015 at 2:58 pm

    I’ve been think and praying through this a lot lately. Thanks for sharing your idea about the wall, it really helped give a clear picture in my mind about how to serve, love and support those around me. I’ve learnt heaps that we can’t force or make these relationships happen, we need to be praying and asking our Father to set those relationship up around us and we need to take the opportunities and step out in faith. I would have never dreamed of having some of the deep, loving connections I have and when I look back I see God’s hand and fingerprints all over it, guiding us. I’ve felt really muddled in different relationships and been asking God how to handle, serve, love etc each different person, the wall idea has definitely made it a lot clearer for me. I’ll always keep praying through different relationships, but thanks for the help 🙂

    1. Greg Simas Feb 3, 2015 at 3:47 pm

      Thanks Jo. You are definitely on the right track. You’re right about relationships, you cannot force them, and God is always a huge part of process in finding them. I’m glad the Lord has connected you with such amazing people. Your testimony affirms that through prayer God sets things up for us because He best knows exactly what we need.


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