How Do You Want to Approach God? You Choose.

Our mindset on how to approach God determines the confidence we have before God.


About a year ago, I was studying Luke 18 “The parable of the Unjust Judge”, trying to determine how it relates to God hearing our prayers and releasing justice. Here it is.

Luke 18:1-5
Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up. 2 He said: “In a certain town there was a judge who neither feared God nor cared about men. 3 And there was a widow in that town who kept coming to him with the plea, ‘Grant me justice against my adversary.’ 4 “For some time he refused. But finally he said to himself, ‘Even though I don’t fear God or care about men, 5 yet because this widow keeps bothering me, I will see that she gets justice, so that she won’t eventually wear me out with her coming!’”

But I can never really quite understand the words of Jesus that followed the parable.

Luke 18:6-8
And the Lord said, “Listen to what the unjust judge says. 7 And will not God bring about justice for his chosen ones, who cry out to him day and night? Will he keep putting them off? 8 I tell you, he will see that they get justice, and quickly. However, when the Son of Man comes, will he find faith on the earth?”

Suddenly the thought came to me. This parable is not a comparison but a contrast regarding how we should pray. The parable runs completely opposite of how we should approach our Heavenly Father.


With this idea set in place, I quickly thought of another parable that Jesus shared. It’s found in Luke 11:5-8. The parable is given as another contrast on how we approach God in prayer. The story is told of a reluctant friend who keeps knocking and knocking on the door of his buddy’s house until his friend finally and reluctantly gets up, opens the door and gives him food.

We have to conclude from these two parables that God is neither an unjust judge nor a reluctant friend!

Now I realize that there is truth in the two parables but these can never be our standard for approaching God in prayer.


There is a better way to approach the Lord in prayer. When we read the book of Esther (Esther 5-8) we discover a living parable from Esther’s life. Esther is Queen of the country when she discovers that she and the Jewish people living in the land are faced with extermination at the hands of Hamond. Things become desperate and Esther seeks justice from the King. Time was running out.

Esther’s plan for justice did not include widdling the King down with continual demands and constant floor-pounding. Her approach is baffling. She displays her beauty to the King and reminds him of their wedding vows with two banquets (Esther 5:4-5, 7:1,2). That’s it. Justice was granted to Esther and her people from a King who could not resist her beauty and devotion. She did not beg him, she did not nag him, she romanced him into a place of justice. She reminded him of their love. (More on this provided in the link below)

I think this is the true essence of effective prayer. Justice is born when intimacy is expressed. Begging and pleading, nagging and reeling might get His attention but it won’t necessarily capture His heart. Love will.


I have provided a side by side comparison of these three stories in a PDF document found in the link below. If you would like the PDF copy of this simply click the link and you will receive it straight to your desktop.  *CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD

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9 years ago

Wow, a very good revelation and observation. God loves to answer prayers because of His relationship with us, rather than us trying to cry, beg or nag.

9 years ago
Reply to  Derrick

I think we really need to come to the solid understanding that God is neither reluctant nor unconcerned. Our Heavenly Father is eager to both hear and help us.

9 years ago

This teaching rocked my world PG.  Thanks so much!

9 years ago
Reply to  Carla

Carla, Thanks for all your work in putting together the downloaded document, it makes things so much easier to understand when these three stories are standing side by side with each other. Also, it was so good for me to write about it! 😉 Thanks for the comment!

9 years ago

Am so inspired. With these revelation, i will not struggle again in
the place of prayer. Is good to know that God calls me every day.
Thank you so much, i look forward of more inspiration.

9 years ago
Reply to  Mfon-Obong

So glad this helped 🙂 Thanks for sharing!

9 years ago

great perspective.  it reminds me of the 1st several chapters of andrew murray’s book on prayer: with Christ in the school of prayer.  he lays out how and why to come to God as our Father who longs to meet with us in the secret place.  reminded me of how we are to approach the Lord that He wants to hear us  and answer.

my recent post: it’s all about perspective

9 years ago
Reply to  charis

I read that book years ago. Love Murray’s writings. Good stuff. Thanks for sharing! 

9 years ago

What a cool new outlook! Love this! Approach God by reminding Him of our marriage covenant. 🙂 There is a lot to ponder on, so much detail involved here. Ester prepares herself physically, mentally and spiritually by fasting and praying first and I think a key here is she has those who are close to her fast and pray too. 
Thanks for sharing this Pastor Greg, it is very insightful and again much to pray over and ponder on. 


9 years ago
Reply to  Child of God

Glad for you in discovering the new outlook!

8 years ago
Reply to  Greg Simas

Thanks for this. I believe God sent me to this post because He had mercy on me lol. I wasn’t getting any results from my nagging, crying, nose-runny prayers and now I understand why, and it really makes perfect sense. I tell people not to try to force me to help them all the time with force  and manipulation and here I am trying to appeal to God’s pity.(God doesn’t attend pity parties btw) Thanks again 🙂

9 years ago

AWEsome!!!! I Love it! This is Sooooooo good…. We must remember to pray like this. Thanks for the reminder and great Biblical insight! You are such a Value to #TheKingdomOfGod

9 years ago

Rachel, Gary’s book, “Bridal Intercession”, gave me awesome revelation from the story of Esther. Asking, seeking and knocking are still required by Jesus but our understanding of just whom we are asking is crucial. Esther understood that the King was deeply in love with her and was devoted to granting justice on her behalf.

9 years ago

Just yesterday I was speaking with a contact who shared with me Graham Cooke’s perspective on praying as a bride instead of a widow. Really good perspective here. The parables in Luke teach us about perseverance and boldness, but our real identity in prayer is as a royal bride who has everything that Jesus has.

9 years ago

I fully agree here. Obviously Jesus wants us to “ask, knock and seek” I have discovered that there is growth in God coming out of the place of persistence in prayer. Graham is totally right here, our IDENTITY is found in a royal bride whom the groom takes pleasure in both hearing and providing. Thanks for dropping by and sharing. 😉

8 years ago

Aelisha, For many years I thought Luke 18 was the only way to get God’s attention. I suppose God does respond to this approach for a season…but eventually we need greater levels of revelation that places us before Him out of love to fulfill our need. I am so glad that the Lord spoke to you with this post. I really appreciate you sharing. 😉  

7 years ago

I am just so full of amazement read this spirit filled word. Now i have found a way to impress GOD better than before :-). Thank You PG. I Pray GOD will Keep the anointing flowing in you.

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