It’s been about five months since the Lord totally blindsided me (in a good way) about the use of Sarcasm in Leadership while venturing on a 21 day fast. Never in a million years did I actually think this would come up but nonetheless it did.
How much progress have I made since turning off the switch of sarcasm in life and leadership? What have I learned in the journey? How can I encourage you to live a fairly sarcastic-free life?
Ongoing Learning Experience
Here is what I am learning:
- Initially, I found myself much quieter in conversations. When sarcasm ends you find out that you might not have much say. Indeed this was the case for me.
- I have discovered that I am much more aware when I cross the line into something sarcastic. As soon as I say something sarcastic the Holy Spirit is quick to point it out. Needless to say, the Holy Spirit has been real busy with me over the last 5 months.
- I don’t jump in when sarcasm abounds. I am sure people wondered what was up with me. I didn’t try to correct anyone or preach at them. This is my journey not theirs. I just don’t participate.
- It appears that sarcasm has virtually stopped happening around me. In other words, the atmosphere around me is not sarcastic. This proves something that I have said for years, “what is in you will eventually be around you.”
- I plainly see the ramifications of sarcasm when it’s being used. It’s stinging words are directed to another person whether they are in the room or not, wounding them and creating distance.
Good leadership and sarcasm simply don’t mix. Sarcasm is not beneficial nor constructive.
It’s better to lead out of honor and encouragement.
Ephesians. 4:29 “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”
Interestingly, nearly two weeks after I posted my first article on sarcasm, I came across a blog post from another Senior Pastor on this whole issue of sarcasm. The post is titled, “What Does Being Sarcastic Say About You.” Pete Wilson is a Pastor and Author ministering at the 5,000 attendee Crosspoint Church. Read it here.
I think the Lord is highlighting this area to many.
A Bit of Encouragement
I encourage you to turn-off sarcasm. It’s just not useful. Sarcasm is so embedded in our culture. Turning it off will take focused resolve and plenty of help from the Holy Spirit. As a result, you will be a better person, friend and leader.
Later, I will do a post on the difference between sarcasm and satire. I’m up for satire.
Your thoughts? Do you agree with the idea that sarcasm is not healthy? Have you been a target of sarcasm? How did it affect you?