What To Do When You Find Yourself In Difficult Seasons


This past year, well more accurately, these past few years have been marked with significant challenges leading to difficult situations.

I’ll use this space to share what the Lord has taught me in this season in the context of leadership and my pursuit of God through the process.

Here are three things I want to leave you with when you find yourself in difficult seasons, especially if you are a leader.

1. Stay in the place of abiding with the Lord and don’t move from it.

God’s promise is that He will get you through the valley if you stay in communion with him. The Lord always sets a table before you in the presence of your enemies, your conflict, your trial. This invitation to draw near to God is always extended to you while you journey through your dark seasons. Accept this invitation to draw near to God often.

Psalm 23:4 “Even though I walk through the darkest valley,a I will fear no evil, for you are with me, your rod and your staff,they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies.” (NIV)

2. While you can’t control what happens TO you, you can control what happens IN you.

I’ve taken this position for many years. People can go after your reputation but they can never touch your character. You own your integrity, you own your character, no-one or nothing can take this away. Being right with God is your greatest reward so find life in His presence, stay aligned with His Word and walk in a manner worthy of the Lord.

Colossians 1:10 “live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God.”

3. Make the right (godly) choices.

Whether you feel God’s presence or not. Whether you’re betrayed by, gossiped and/or slandered about by others, refuse to let these things move you into making wrong choices you will regret and have to clean up later.

Determine to do what is godly and do what is right. If you choose the right thing, if you consistently make godly choices no matter how hard it is, God will reward you. Trust His goodness. Trust His character. Trust His Word.

Proverbs 3:5,6 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart,And lean not on your own understanding; 6 In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.”

The Goal Of Trials

I’m reminded that the goal of the Christian life is not heaven but the image of Jesus. This is why it says in James 1:2 “to count it all joy when you face various trials…” we can find joy in the trial when we realize that the trial carries the nutrients to produce a greater reflection of His nature and glory in us.

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Greg Simas
Greg is the Founder and Senior Leader of Convergence House of Prayer, Husband, Father, Pastor and Writer. He is married to his wife Wendi, and have three amazing children and four grandchildren. Greg lives in the San Francisco Bay Area.

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  1. Wife left, 3 months ago. Just read psalm 23 this morning. Trying to get rid of memories of my wife like taking off my ring and putting away pictures because of the pain. To God I am still married. I hope that is good enough.

    1. Hi Leason, My heart goes out to you. It grieves me to hear about marriages that become fractured. Continue to reach up to the Lord. Look for a mature believer(s) whom you can confide in for prayer and support. I’ll believe God for His divine and supernatural intervention.

  2. Thanks, Greg. I’m a continent away, but God always speaks through you to me just when I need it. Thank you for being obedient to His guidance as you write. Blessings!

    1. Thanks for the kind words, Noreen. Grace and favor to you and your ministry!

  3. I have been walking through a dry desert in my relationship with God. The words from “What to Do When You Find Yourself in Difficult Seasons” was encouraging. I received similar words during our home fellowship meeting this past week, so this was great confirmation. At this writing, I am slowly beginning to sense the purpose of this season.

    1. Hi Allen. So glad this post came as a confirmation for you. God is moving you THROUGH the valley. Through the process you will gain much greater revelation and anointing. 🙂 Blessings!

  4. Hi Greg. Thank you for this! I have always found the Lord using your posts to speak to me. I’ve had a very difficult time these last few years. We’ve have health issues, babies, moved 3 times and preparing for another, and several family troubles. It’s been so overwhelming. I found myself doing exactly what you warmed against in your first point. I felt as if God was watching, but doing nothing. I felt hurt or as if I was being punished. I appreciate your point so much, regarding our purpose: “…the goal of the Christian life is not heaven but the image of Jesus.” I’ve been fighting against this for fear of what God would allow me, my kids, and husband to endure. I knew it was futile, and even destructive to fight, but I just couldn’t get myself to surrender. These are great, to-the-point removers of what we need to focus on and why. I would also consider meeting with other believers and sharing your struggle to be of great importance. Thank you again!

    1. Thanks, Megan for your transparent and honest comment. When we hit these valleys we question the goodness of God. This, at least for me, is almost always the first accusation that hits me when I hit difficult seasons. Though I believe there is warfare involved, I must believe that the Lord has my and my families highest good in mind. Isaiah 55 says that his thoughts and ways are higher and greater than are’s. He is going to bring you all through!

  5. good practical things to live by in those tough seasons. thank you! and I’m so happy you’re writing again!!!

    1. Thanks, Hannah. 🙂

  6. So so good bro. I read this to our youth ministry tonight and we had lots of great discussion over it. Thank you!

    1. Todd. So awesome! Creative way to use a resource! Anymore details on the youth ministry night would be great. Blessings!

  7. Hey Greg, I have been having difficult time in my marriage even before we got married. It’s been four years and I don’t think if I can say that I a have anything positive to say about marriage. Part of it has been my poor choices, and part of it my wife. We have a daughter r and another child coming up soon, and I don’t wanna give up. What can I do? We have gone through so many counselors and I now feel like I really don’t know what to do. Need advice.

    1. Hi, Paul. A solution is difficult to convey in a comment. What I can say is that marriage is all about dying to ourselves and serving one another. The scriptures say we are to love our wives like Christ loved the church. Jesus humbled himself, left heaven, walked among us as the servant of all, was crucified, all for his bride. Now, I realize that many things make a marriage good or bad. But the cornerstone is Christ. Serving one anther, praying together and meeting each others needs out of the overflow from our personal relationship with the Lord. You take the lead in both humility and love. Counseling is good…stick with it. Make sure you have a solid Christian counselor. Don’t give up on your marriage because God hasn’t. I’ll keep you in my prayers.

  8. Feels hopeless. Nothing but valleys. Just one peak would be nice.

    1. I’m with you, Greg. I’ll be praying for you!

  9. This was really good Mr. Simas. I learned the same thing just almost three years ago. However previous to learning this information, I probably got a C- grade if God graded. It is important to be still and keep our eyes on Him during difficult times so He can download information and instructions to us on how to handle the issue at hand. Your articles are very helpful.

    1. Hi, Pamela. I can tell you of times and situations that I got lower than a C- grade but praise God for how he teaches us and that he is found faithful to help us even when we hit these low grades! Glad your growing, keep going!!

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